Some of the hallmarks of ADHD include impulsivity, failure to complete tasks, and poor organization. All of these undermine your ability to accomplish goals.
We know that ADHD stems from poor executive function – the governor of impulsivity, task completion, and organization.
Today, we’ll discuss tips and strategies that will help strengthen executive function and crush your goals.
Set a short-term achievable goal
Both short-term and achievable are the key words here. If you recall your New Year’s resolutions, you likely said something like, “I’m going to give up smoking.” Or, “I’m going to drop 20 pounds this year.” It’s likely that you didn’t achieve either one. Since neither one is short-term, neither one has a high probability of achievement.
Here’s how we fix this. Remember the old saying, “You can’t eat the whole elephant at one sitting.” Break goals into specific, achievable, near-term goals that have a number you can count. Here’s an example: “I’m going to save $5 this week by stashing a dollar bill in my top drawer every day over the next week.” Notice that it’s near-term. It’s achievable. It uses a number so you can easily measure your goal. You’ve given yourself seven days to save $5. Seven days provides for a small margin of error, but this goal is quite measurable. It’s relevant, as you need to save money.
It’s important that you don’t stress yourself out over your goal. Enjoy the pleasure you get out of seeing your little nest egg grow. It may be the source of your next goal. For example, “Next week, I’m going to save $2 each day until I reach $10.” Relish the challenge. Reward yourself in a healthy way. Instead of spending the $10 on a double cheeseburger, reward yourself with a quiet soak in a hot bath or enjoy a movie that you’ve been waiting to watch.
Having a partner to help you reach your goals keeps you accountable for reaching your daily goal. If you’re worried that you’ll spend the money you save, your partner can help you bank your money. If you’re computer savvy, you can use the bank’s portal to transfer money from your checking to your savings account.
If you are having trouble meeting your goal, your partner is the person to call. Explain why you think you’re missing your goal. Asking your partner for help is a sign of growth and maturity.
Since ADHD people typically have difficulty being organized, having a partner help you stay organized is a very good idea. You can have them remind you with a phone call to see that you’ve saved for the day. You can set a day that you’ll stop by the bank together. You can even set the time of day that the $1 bill get’s put in the top drawer.
The more complex your goal, the less chance of success. Remember that. The more steps your create, the less chance of success. Think of it as steps to the top of a skyscraper; you’re likely to walk up one flight of steps. If you have 6 more flights, you’ll dread taking your next step.
Keep your goal simple, near-term, and achievable. You’ll crush it! Now, get started!
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